For me and my single friends (let's face it there's only about 3 of them left) the dating world is a very bizarre place and dating itself is just plain awkward!
First there's the classic set up. How many times have I heard, "Oh, you'd be perfect for ______! "<---- insert name of brother, cousin, co-worker, etc. here....only to find out you're not so perfect for each other and end up spending the majority of the date trying to find some excuse to leave or giving them a BIG hint that there won't be a second one.
Then you meet someone who you think you have a lot in common with and then realize people just lie in order to impress you. I may be alone on this one, but I always have a problem going on a first date because I'm slightly paranoid and spend the date wondering if the person is a serial killer, closet hoarder, or satan worshiper...you can usually eliminate 2 of the 3 by date #3.
I absolutely HATE awkward silence, which you experience a lot during those first few dates. What do you talk about? What kind of questions do you ask? I tend to say the same thing over and over when I am slightly nervous, like saying, "Oh, that's neat" or "yeah" or "Really? Wow!" when responding to someone's stories. I never know what questions to ask...What is too personal? What if you offend them by asking about religion or politics?...I know, I know what you're saying right now, "Never ever talk about politics and religion!" BUT I want to know that we have the same religious views or the date is kind of pointless (one of my must haves on my "Ideal Guy" list). So, here's what I want to know from you...what was your favorite first date?...location and activity wise. What are some good questions to ask on a date to find out if you will be interested in a second? The typical questions are so routine and boring, what are some other ways to find out the basics about someone? Let's get both female and male responses...c'mon help me and my single friends out, I gotta find someone before the other 3 do.
I think you should go on a first date to a fun and festive place whether it be nice or casual...Melting Pot, Ischen's! Happy Hour somewhere might be fun with friends might make a first date easier. Questions...well first I would need to know if he had a good job and was single with no kids:) If I was single, never been married, I would want to experience all these firsts with someone. I would want to find someone who was looking for all the things that I wanted. Good luck! You are such a pretty girl and you have a lot to offer!
ReplyDeleteI went to celebration station on a first double date once. It was really fun and a nice relaxing way to talk but then again I was only 15 or 16 so may not be as fun now!!! I met Pat when I was barely 17 and the rest is history!!!
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